Safety When Preparing To Leave
A. Determine who would let you stay with them or lend you some money.
B. Always try to take your children with you or make arrangements to leave them with someone safe.
C. Leave money, an extra set of keys, copies of important documents, and extra clothes with someone that you trust.
D. Open a savings account in your name to begin establishing or increasing your independence. Be sure that the banking statements are mailed directly to a trusted friend or family member. Think of other ways in which you can increase your independence.
E. Keep the shelter numbers close at hand and keep change or a calling card with you at all times.
F. Reveiw your safety plan with a domestic violence advocate in order to plan the safest way to leave your batterer.
ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE THE RIGHT NOT TO BE ABUSED IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP - PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY OR SEXUALLY!
Safety With a Restraining Order
A. Keep your restraining order with you at all times. Leave extra copies at work, with a friend, in a car, etc.
B. Call the police if your partner breaks the protective order, even if only by phone.
C. Think of alternative ways to keep safe if the police do not respond right away.
D. Inform family, friends and neighbors that you have a restraining order in effect.
E. Try to avoid places in the community where your batterer may frequent.